What Kind of Life Do You Want? Practical Lifestyle Design in 3 Simple Steps

lifestyle design, Stephanie Holland, The Freedom Philosophy

Lifestyle design has been a buzz concept since Tim Ferris published The 4-Hour Work Week.

Although free-spirited humans have been designing their life off-grid since the dawn of time (we are innately nomadic, yet shockingly ‘motionless’ in contemporary life), this book delivered it to the mainstream, and now it’s available as a DIY option to anyone willing to invest the thought, time and energy to create the exact life they dream of.

Location-independence and 4-wheel drive aside, lifestyle design is about more than just where you want to be and what you want to have.

It’s also about how you want to feel.

Proactive lifestyle design is about discovering what we really want (not what we think we want), and understanding where and how we’re compromising what we really want so we can reverse engineer it and simultaneously remove the blocks in our way.

The idea is to design our life with such integrity that we can then leverage our time and natural behaviour effortlessly, and create inspirational and viable milestones that help us achieve it.

You must be in control of your life.

You must be the powerful creator at the helm so that you can infuse your life and business with electrifying energy.

Because when you are in top form, everything else in your life skyrockets.

Let’s take control.

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Lifestyle Design 101

  1. Write a vision for your DREAM life that excites the cr*p out of you.
  2. Enrich it with detail in the 15 areas to make sure you haven't missed anything.
  3. Pin it up so it can inspire you everyday: when you wake up, when you feel flat, just before bed.

Most people focus on career, business, money, family & relationships, but there are 15 areas to consider and I've listed them below. This should spark your imagination for a balanced and brilliant life.

But first...

#1: Write a vision for your DREAM life that excites the cr*p out of you

In The Freedom Philosophy Classes I call this your Prophecy.

Your Prophecy is a roadmap for your dream life — 3 years ahead.

It’s powerful and evocative.

Writing a detailed picture of our life 3 years ahead is a great way to work with our subconscious mind, which is, after all, the most powerful tool at our disposal.

By setting out a vivid vision of what our life looks like 3 years into the future, we activate a heady mix of thought + faith that inspires us to keep showing up in a powerful way. An irresistible filter for our behaviours, it encourages us to show up in a way that (perhaps) we have never done before.


Try it now:

  1. Write down a detailed picture of your life 3 years ahead in 500 words or less.


Tips for prophecy writing

  1. Grab a beautiful blank journal or notebook. (I LOVE my new Confidant from Baron & Fig.)
  2. Use a colourful pen. Purple works well for dream-weaving. (I LOVE my purple Pilot Gel Ink pens.)
  3. Switch off your laptop. Tune into your own frequency, darling!
  4. Go somewhere quiet, beautiful or inspiring, if you can. A gallery. Your favourite café. A park or mountain. Your bed.
  5. Close your eyes for a few moments. Then write what you ‘see’.
  6. Write in the first person: include how you feel, what you do, what you have, and who is around you. Avoid names of people; instead say ‘friends’, ‘husband/wife’, ‘lover’ or ‘children’. We’re not writing a prescription; we’re writing a vision that can unfold in any way.
  7. Be unreasonable, but not unrealistic. This is designed to entice you forward.
  8. Free write, without editing or self-censorship. It’s for your eyes only.

#2: Enrich it with detail in the 15 areas to make sure you haven't missed anything

Let’s drill down into a little more detail to explore the micro areas of our life that enable our prophetic vision to unfold.

Change and transformation in these areas is critical, or no change and transformation will occur at all.

These areas are specific elements that intertwine to create a rich and fulfilling life, yet may not have been specifically addressed in our Prophecy.

This is totally OK, and exactly how the prophecy is the top level, ultimate vision of our dream life.

But we need to get granular to action it.

These elements tend to include areas of life that are either:

  1. Usually grouped together: business + career + money;
  2. Not considered at all: personal space + community;
  3. Sometimes avoided altogether: spirituality + personal development.

When we address these areas in detail, we’re simply expanding our prophecy to bring awareness of the interdependence of the different elements that contribute to it, and understand how they combine to create balance.

Balance is the baseline for whatever success looks like to you, whether it’s happiness and fulfilment in general, or something more specific, such as impacting the lives of one million people and banking two million dollars a year.

This might be the most challenging — and is definitely the most time-consuming — journaling exercise, but trust me when I say it’s worth it.

In your own journal or the FREE workbook you can access above, create a vision for each of the following in only a few sentences:

  1. Body
  2. Health
  3. Personal development
  4. Spirituality
  5. Personal space
  6. Home
  7. Romantic relationship
  8. Friendship
  9. Family
  10. Community
  11. Home
  12. Career
  13. Business or startup
  14. Money
  15. Learning + education

If you define each from a concrete or abstract perspective you’ll cover all bases.

But starting with a concrete approach is fine, too.


Abstract: deeper, more philosophical, more spiritual approach.

For example, your beliefs about your body or money and how you ‘feel’ about them, versus concrete ideas about how much you weigh or how much is in your bank account in absolute terms.

  • I feel confident and sexy, regardless of my weight; or I love my body as my spiritual home.
  • Money is a direct reflection of my impact in the world; or my capacity to generate wealth is infinite.

You’ve just done a deep dive into the dream vision you have for your life through all its different aspects so now, when you reread your Prophecy, could it use more oomph?

You might like to rewrite it to give it more power.

Or it might be fine as it is. It’s up to you.


#3: Pin it up

The #1 reason most goal setting exercises don't work is because people do them and then FORGET about them.

Don't do that.

  1. Make a beautiful handwritten artwork or print it from a Word or Pages document.
  2. Pin it up around the house, keep a copy next to your bed, pop it in your bag.
  3. Read it out loud every morning when you wake up, and again just before bed.

Fill your subconscious with a vision of your premium life, knowing you’re doing what you can to live it every single day.

A series of incremental upgrades will create your premium life from today.

Reading it regularly will remind your conscious and subconscious mind to create it.

Just think how much faster you’ll get to your destination with this roadmap.

What do you find most challenging when it comes to envisioning what you want? Drop me an email!


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